Most, if not all, of us have seen that TV show, or that movie, or maybe we’ve read about it in a book.
Two people, madly in love—maybe even engaged—and then one person gets a job offer.
Not just any job offer. It’s their dream job. The one they knew they wanted when they were five years old.
But along with the job offer comes the different state that it’s in.
So the one person says to the other, “I can’t hold you back from your dream. You’ll grow to resent, or maybe even hate me. I couldn’t live with myself if that happened so you have to take it.”
And then the person takes the job, the couple breaks up, and all the fans are mad. Or sad. Or both.
There are some who would argue, “They could work it out if they just tried!”
Or some who say, “They must not have been truly in love, then.”
(As my dad pointed out, you don’t marry someone you can live with, you marry someone who you can’t live without.)
In my experience, though, sometimes the person who says, “You have to take the job” doesn’t listen to the person who was offered the job!
I think sometimes people fail to realize that dreams can change. Dreams don’t have to be goals, but sometimes they can be people.
I’ve been thinking about this lately, and as I think about it, I keep thinking about in Tangled when Eugene told Rapunzel, “You were my new dream.”
Maybe the person’s dream job did offer them a position. But that dream job may look a lot less appealing then the person they’re in love with—especially if to do that job they have to leave that person.
Just something I’ve been thinking about lately.